Why is it that people never follow through with their goals? They muster up all this energy at the beginning, feeling hyped, excited and motivated and then in a short while there back into their old ways.
I wondered about this because this was me awhile back. I couldn’t quite understand it. I know I wanted change but everything I did wasn’t good enough or never led me in the direction to achieving what I wanted.
Then something happened one day. After a traumatic event in my life and at my deepest and most difficult time in my life where I thought nothing was possible, I felt a burning emotion rupturing inside me. I felt within me this desirable need for change in me and it never left me. I felt this was the foundation (a burning desire) to transform my life. It was this feeling that pushed me everyday. Gave me purpose everyday. Gave me hope everyday. Gave me belief everyday but most importantly this feeling gave me a dream!
I knew this feeling wanted more for me then I could imagine for myself and therefore I let it lead me (I had nothing to lose as I thought I had lost everything already) BUT in order to connect with it fully I needed to change my mindset. I had to change my beliefs, find my values and make a plan.
Now as I fast forward my life, my conclusion is this. Belief is the foundation to making change in your life. Without it is like suffocating your body of oxygen. You pretty much will be running in circles expecting results.
Let me explain what I mean:
For example: If I set a goal to lose 10 pounds in 3 months. I focus on my goal, I take the necessary steps to change my lifestyle and all is good, right?! All is good so far but yet on an unconscious level I have a deep rooted belief that people around me (especially close friends and family) have tried to lose weight and never succeeded. What will that do for me? With this disconnection, my belief will override my goal to lose 10 pounds in 3 months. My belief will lead me to run a pattern that says its meant to be really hard or even impossible to lose weight. This is what I call a limiting belief and no matter how hard I work to lose weight, if I don’t change my beliefs of being fit then it will only be short lived and back to square 1.
This is why its vital on your journey to focus on what you want in your life, to understand your own belief system and the impact this has on your goals. You will need to change your beliefs so that your goals and beliefs are totally aligned….BUT beliefs are held on an unconscious level so how can you figure out what your beliefs are? As an NLP coach I specialize in Positive Mind Set changes. If you are interested in wanting to know your limiting beliefs and break free from them then click here and we ca work together.
Here is another example to help you understand:
EXAMPLE 1: Believe I can’t get fit
I don’t want to be fat. I prepare my exercise schedule. I join the gym and start exercise regularly. After a couple of weeks I begin to make excuses to myself to avoid exercising. I begin to exercise less often. I get demotivated when I don’t see any improvement in my fitness. I get increasingly fed up with myself. When I’m fed up I eat more. I even begin to put on weight and I’m less fit than when I started. I drove my belief to myself.
EXAMPLE 2: Believe I can get fit easily
I have a vision of how great I will look and feel when I’m fit. I prepare my exercise schedule. I join the gym and start exercise regularly. I feel excited and motivated as I notice my body shape changing. I notice my weight starting to reduce. I feel good about myself and look forward to showing off the new me. I buy myself some new clothes to reward myself. I continue to get fitter. I reach my target fitness and weight. I prove my belief to myself.
Because beliefs are unconscious one way to know about your beliefs is to reflect on your parents attitude to relationships, money, career, etc or your attachments to significant people in your lives. You may be unconsciously be modelling them.
There is a quote ‘ Whether you think you can’t or you think you can you are right’. Your beliefs shape your reality.
Now with this new found information will you spend your time focused on your empowering or limiting beliefs about yourself?
Awareness is the first step to change,
Transformational Life Coach/Personal Trainer
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